As I’ve still got some time on my hands (I’m now 6 days overdue and counting) and realising that a week after I finally give birth, my husband and I will probably share something fairly private on Facebook – e.g. a picture of our first child, I decided to have a look at the list of people we would be sharing this with.
I have (or rather had) around 280 people classed as “friends” on my Facebook page. Considering I invited 30 people to my last birthday party and we had a combined 150 guests at our wedding, 280 people is a lot.
Scanning through the list, I noticed some names where I can’t even recall how I knew them. It was probably a tour where we got along for a few days and swapped Facebook names, or old work colleagues from a job I had over a decade ago. Would they really care about the birth of my child? Probably not. I decided to unfriend all of these people. There were surprisingly more than I thought!
I then went through this list again, and decided to unfriend everyone who did not fit the current criteria:
- if I should see this person on the street, would I go up to them to say hello?
If not, unfriend. Again, surprisingly more than I thought there would be.
This didn’t feel like a malicious or cruel exercise. Not only am I saving myself from information I don’t really care about, but also on the flip side. If I couldn’t be bothered to say hello to any of these people – could I really expect them to feel differently? Also, would they even care to see my updates on their newsfeed? Probably not. Some people I decided to unfriend had well over 500 “friends”. Surely they are just collecting and aren’t really interested in what everyone had to say.
I think it was worth unfriending people on Facebook for everyone concerned and probably worth having an annual clear out. Like a spring cleaning for your social networks! I would highly recommend!
- Vladimir Putin Unfriends Obama on Facebook After ‘Upsetting Syria Post’ (topekasnews.com)
- People You Need To Unfriend On Facebook Immediately (buzzfeed.com)